Love for me is not enough. If you have been around a while, you can testify that a person’s love for you is not all it takes for a relationship to work. The irony of love is that some of the people who we claim to love the most may not necessarily be the ones we end up with in life. I am talking today about how to insure your love life. The essence of insurance is assurance. Is your love life insured? Is the love that person claims to have for you insured? Love is a very risky business.
Love insurance is needed in order to manage the risks involved in case of emergencies and eventualities. Unfortunately the brand of love that is most common comes with no guarantees. To the best of my knowledge,there are three ways to insure your love life and overcome the risks involved in falling in love.
MAKE SURE YOUR LOVER IS FIRST IN LOVE WITH GOD
No human can tame another, only the creator can tame us all. Our love for the creator is regulatory in its impact. An intense love for God puts in us a desire to please him by acting responsibly, and by so doing avoiding the things that will hurt God, would automatically mean that we avoid the things that will hurt our lovers. I am not talking about just attending one place of worship or the other. Neither am I talking about adopting spiritual cliches like born again and the likes. I am talking about someone who allows their love for the creator regulates their day to day behaviour ethically. Their genuine love for God will keep them from hurting you and pleasing the creator will make them live to please you.
MAKE SURE YOUR LOVER IS IN LOVE WITH THEIR WORK
This is especially necessary for men because it is societally expected of them to be providers. Your lovers love for his line of work will insure you against material insufficiency. It is hard to feel love when obvious needs are going unmet in your relationship. This is why you must cultivate your streams of income before cultivating your streams of love, especially if you are a man. Ladies too are advised to develop a line of work so you don’t become entirely dependent on the man. Extreme dependency creates resentment in the one you are depending upon. Besides that, working ladies are less demanding for male attention because they have a life to tend to. So choosing a hard and a smart worker is your insurance against poverty. I need not tell you about the destructive influence that chronic poverty can have on a relationship.
YOU MUST MAKE SURE YOUR LOVER IS FIRST A LOVER OF HUMANITY IN GENERAL
Don’t be deceived by how specially a person treats you personally. No matter how special you are to your lover, as the relationship ages, that which is special is bound to become common. At that point of overwhelming familiarity, your lover is likely to treat you as well as they treat common people. When all the sparks of lust die out, you will now be treated like they have always treated people. In other words how they treat ordinary people, says more about a person, than how they treat you. Don’t be fooled, watch out for the value, this so-called lover places on those around them. It just might become the same value they will place on you when you have become very familiar with then. This is your only insurance against abuse when the days of familiarity arrives.
Most of all, make sure the person loves you. Nothing else can compensate for a partner’s lack of love for you. I often ask couples to ruthlessly terminate the relationship, if a person’s love for you is in question or in doubt. No matter how much you beg, a person that stays with you, without wanting you with all of their heart will someday hurt you. These are the various ways to insure your love life. Please and please do not settle for less.
THE GREATEST IS LOVE