Many believe love is complex or even complicated. Many view love as a mystery to be felt and experienced. The truth be told, at some point in your life you might find yourself in a complex love scenario. How do we unravel these complexities? Over the next few days we shall be dealing with the subject SOLVING COMPLEX LOVE EQUATIONS. I am optimistic about the fact that your peculiar circumstance will be addressed before we are through with this series.The first love equation is WHEN YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE. This is a very common and unfortunate scenario. Though love is a force, love can not be forced. I have seen people yearn for the attention and affection of someone beloved for a lifetime and never getting it. This reality can be emotionally exasperating.
The principal symptom that you are dealing with this issue is reluctance. Over the years I have learned to watch out for any hint of reluctance in prospective couples. Whenever I have ignored the reluctance of a partner, the marriages have been disastrous. Another symptom of it is one sided commitment.. This is when a relationship is being held together by the sheer commitment of one partner instead both of them.
The risk of getting involved in such relationships is that the unloved partner is likely to be exploited. Whenever love isn’t mutual and reciprocal, the partner in love is most likely to be used and abused, rejected and dejected. It was like the ancient biblical story of Rachel, Leah and Jacob. Jacob’s love was and had always been towards Rachel. This was why all of Leah’s life, she was treated like what she was – an unwelcome cultural interruption of his preferred affection. By all means make up your mind not to be the Leah of this world. Being her can be an emotionally harrowing experience. No one deserves such pain.
To solve this problem, you will have to probe the source and depth of every claim of love for you. The more external the origin of the love for you, the more unlikely it is to last. The more internal the origin of love the more successful it would be. There are a number of places that someone’s decision for you can come from. It could come from parents, pastors, friends, circumstances, their mind, or their body. Your love for another is only safe, if their love for you is coming from their heart and spirit or the core of their being.
You must also be sensitive to the emotional idols in the life of a prospective lover. Their love idols are the ones they keep talking about and comparing you to. If you can’t make the merit list of a lover, please don’t be content to be on their supplementary list. This is because they will most likely go for the one they truly desire,and you might be left stranded in the end.
What if you are already involved with such a person whose heart is with someone else? I recommend that you quit honorably before you are quitted dishonorably. I believe that your creator has someone for you, who will make you their primary priority in love. Someone who will be mindful of you. Someone who will accept and love you for who you are and what you are. DON’T SETTLE FOR LESS. YOU DESERVE THE BEST AND YOU DESERVE TO BE SOMEONE’S BEST.
THE GREATEST IS LOVE!!!
Deji Olabode
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“I believe that your
creator has someone for you, who will make you
their primary priority in love. Someone who will
be mindful of you. Someone who will accept and
love you for who you are and what you are.
DON’T SETTLE FOR LESS. YOU DESERVE THE
BEST AND YOU DESERVE TO BE SOMEONE’S
BEST.”
I can’t but agree with you sir. we sometimes stay in such unrewarding relationship out of fear believing that it is better to stay with the “devil” we already know than look for an angel we aren’t familiar with…but the truth still remains the you can’t make someone who is in love with someone else love you! It is similar to praying that the devil(lucifer/satan) will one day love you. it is absolutely impossicant(impossible + cannot).
Bless your darling heart.peace&love.xo